There are two phrases that really help me everyday. They help me to be more patient and long suffering. They help me to better understand others. They help me to have the courage to stand up for what I believe. They help me build self-confidence They help me to be more thankful for my blessings.
What are those two phrases?
“Kindness doesn’t always mean weakness.”
“Loud doesn’t always mean right.”
A while ago, I wrote a post on my site about “The Office” and I mentioned that I didn’t watch movies that were rated R. I was surprised at the comments I received. (I deleted the really crude ones.) And I was even more surprised at the emails I received. They were demeaning and rude. It reminded me of high school and how some people would scoff at your for keeping standards.
When I wrote the post, I didn’t mean to make a big deal of it. And I certainly didn’t mean to offend or talk down to anyone. I just mostly mentioned it as the reason I didn’t see Steve Carell’s new movie.
After some insults, the emails would usually say something like, “It’s only rated R because of the language. It’s not like you don’t hear that at work or school all day anyway.”
The reason I bring this up is because of the cussing. I don’t judge people that use cuss words. Everyone can choose for themself. But, I’ll tell you why I don’t like cussing.
I don’t like cuss words because they take away from real detail and description in a sentence. Cussing is so habit forming, that the words will make their way into every sentence. They are used in place of adjectives, verbs, nouns, and in at least one case I know of, as a proper noun. Here is the irony. People use cuss words to try and add more power to their sentence, but for me it has the opposite effect. If real adjectives, nouns and verbs were used, the sentence would be more descriptive and explanatory.
I think that mock cuss words are just as bad in this sense. They are habit forming and retard your ability to represent your opinion well.
Here are the seven rules everyone should follow when using the phone. I understand these are mostly unenforceable, but if everyone followed them that would be great.
1) If your message says you have a question, leave the question as well. That way, if I call or email you back, I’ll be able to answer it. More about that in an old post here.
2) If you need to leave your phone number, leave it at the beginning of the message. If the receiver misses it the first time around, they can listen to the message again and get the number at the very beginning. This will save them from having to listen thru the whole message again.
3) Whoever makes the initial call should lead the conversation. The receiver shouldn’t have to ask, “So, what can I do for you?”
4) Introduce yourself when they answer. Don’t assume the person has caller id or that they have you in their contact list. If it’s a family member or a close friend, you are probably ok. But, if it is anyone else and there is any doubt, just let them know who’s calling.
5) Don’t call someone and then say, “Hey, can you hold on? I have another call coming in.”
6) With cell phones came dropped calls. Here are the two things you have to remember. Whoever had the cell phone that dropped the call is responsible for the call back when they receive better coverage. This is especially applicable when one party is using a land line. If both are on mobile phones and it can’t be determined which phone dropped the call, then the person who initiated the call should try again.
7) Never ask the person why they didn’t answer their cell phone when you called. I never answer this question. Maybe I’m the only one bothered by this but I suppose there are others.
What’s so hard about those?