My Friend Next Door

When we first moved into our current house, we tried to meet our neighbors. Paul, the neighbor to our left, has turned out to be a good friend. He was once a highly intelligent physicist but a few years ago he got in an accident that made him severely handicapped, both mentally and physically. And now he lives a simple life at home. His wife runs their salon here in town.

Paul has become a friend. He shoots the pigeons on my roof with his BB gun. I take out and return his garbage cans each week because it is a physically difficult chore for him to do. We talk baseball, stock market and pigeon hunting.

A couple days ago, Paul knocked on my door. I could tell something was wrong. He told me that the night prior, his wife died just after 5:30. It was completely unexpected and you could tell his heart was broken. I joined him in his sadness.

I had two thoughts when he told me the news.

First, the Gospel is an incredible blessing to have in one’s life. Can you imagine how perfectly it could heal the situation? It promises Paul a return to a healthy body and a strong mind. It also offers the knowledge that he’ll see his wife again.

Yesterday, I asked Paul about his beliefs. In an effort to “lift up the hands which hang down, and strengthen the feeble knees“, I told him what I know to be true. I invited him to learn more and I think he’ll accept that offer.

My second thought is how incredibly unpredictable life can be. I did not know Paul’s wife as well, but we were friendly. With Paul’s physical challenges, surely they assumed he would pass first and they had been planning that way.

Even with the Gospel and the promise to see loved ones again, losing a family member is incredibly difficult. It’s certainly more difficult when there is little or no notice on their departure.

Paul has reminded me to be clear with my heart and feelings with my loved ones and make time for the things most important.

8 thoughts on “My Friend Next Door”

  1. Both of those were taught to me first-hand with Mason’s close call. I also thought alot about gratitude. Especially for small insignificant things, like sitting in the grass with Emma or my kids hugging me.
    I can “help” with Paul. I will pray for your neighbor.

    Since you are clearing your feelings with your loved ones, will you forgive me for throwing things at you on Heather Mist? 🙂

  2. Stacey, I’ve never held a grudge on that. “Throwing things at me” is a very generous term. It was more like, “throwing things in my general direction but slow enough and off mark enough to never get hit.”

    Thanks for praying for Paul.

  3. I ache for people when they suffer…especially when someone like Paul probably doesn’t really understand what’s happening to him right now. (Maybe that is a blessing in disguise?) Sometimes all you can do is help them believe that they can handle their load. I know I experienced that first hand a few years ago when you and Rachel showed up in the hospital. Of course, I think you just wanted to see what I was like on morphine?

  4. This story makes my heart ache. I am glad that Paul may probably not even be fully able to comprehend what is happening in his life right now (that is probably a blessing to him).

    Remember that time you and Rachel came to the hospital to give me some support? That was one of the few times in my life when I questioned if I could handle the pain by myself. Just the fact that you were there giving encouragment was what I really needed at that time of suffering. I was so grateful to learn a lesson for that…and also the morphine. 🙂

    P.S. Please don’t let Cole go outside to see those pigeons on your wall up close!

  5. I’m really sorry for your neighbor. I’m so glad for him that he has you for his neighbor. You three probably bring him a lot of comfort.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.