Brian Stucki

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The Compliment Middleman

Posted by Brian on January 30, 2008

A few days ago I received a nice email from my aunt. Part of it read:

Funny…I am in my room and Madison just came running in. “Hurry, turn on 110.3 FM. Cousin Brian’s song is on!!!” I turn it on and start laughing, because of course it is James Taylor’s “Fire and Rain”. She would not believe me that it wasn’t you. She said it sounded EXACTLY like you.
There you go!

First, you can probably imagine that Cousin Madison just made my list of favorite people.

But more importantly, I love the role that my aunt took here. I call it the “Compliment Middleman.” They take note of when a friend or family member is complimented and then go out of their way to let that person know about it. It’s a talent that some people have and that more people should find. Some of my favorite people do this well and I don’t think that’s a coincidence. I try to do it as often as opportunity allows.

For me personally, I’ve never been able to take a compliment real well directly from the giver. However, I think that everyone enjoys knowing that they were spoken well of when not around.

So next time you hear a friend or family member be complimented, send that person an email or a phone call and let them know. I think you’ll enjoy it as much as they do.

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5 Comments »

Comment by Stacey

1/30/2008 @ 11:31 am

I have to be a middleman than. Not 3 DAYS AGO did James Taylor come on the radio in my nice mini-van and Tyler said “Hey that’s Brian”. Sure it is the exact copycat compliment of Madison’s but I promise it happened. My memory was just refreshed by Jill.

Comment by Rachel

1/31/2008 @ 9:49 pm

Okay, I admit, I have also thought similarly when James Taylor is on the radio. And I totally agree with this. I ALWAYS try to remember to pass along compliments because they are so appreciated when I get them too. (Jamie is an expert at this.) Also, I try to compliment a spouse in front of their other half. (Ex: compliment mom in front of Stan, Stacey in front of Nate.) I think it is important to remind a husband of what he appreciates about his wife. (Feel free to do either of these to me anytime. :o) )

Comment by Stacey

2/1/2008 @ 12:25 pm

I have noticed you do this. :) I will remember next time I see Mr. Harris.

Comment by Erica Bowers

2/5/2008 @ 5:40 pm

ok next time i will do that. i like to read ur blogs brian. they are interesting. see u on sunday, maybe!

Comment by Jayci

2/13/2008 @ 3:27 pm

You’ve been the middleman before. When I began to blog and comment on all your families’ posts, you mentioned that they like that. It was nice to hear. But you are 100% right that this is a rare ‘talent’ that we should all practice more often.

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